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“It’s as though I were living at last in my eyes, as I have always dreamed of doing, and I think then I know why I’ve come here: to see, and so to go out against new things—oh god how easily—like air in a breeze. It’s true there are moments—foolish moments, ecstasy on a tree stump—when I’m all but gone, scattered I like to think like seed…”
William Gass, In the Heart of the Heart of the Country
(Photo: Brad Ewell)
Surviving or Creating: Shifting from an Adoptee Mindset to Your Own
Someone once gave me a dishtowel that says But Did You Die?
Three Life-Changing Ideas I Had about Being Adopted While Listening to Podcasts and Driving 3,282 Miles
I thought about the writing classes I have with adopted people, and how, 100% of the time, when they read their work out loud, I feel in the presence of something holy.
For the Adoptive Mom Who Wondered Just How Many Times Her Daughter Would Hit Bottom
You said your daughter’s therapist wondered how many times your daughter would hit bottom.
Asking for Help When You Believe No One Can Help You and Adoption
I took To Be Real, the sequel to You Don’t Look Adopted off the market after I spent seven hours in the recording studio reading it for the Audible version. I kept saying to the guy at the controls, Is this over yet?
Being A Bitch At Dunkie's or Boston, I Love You
I was pulling out the Dunkin's parking lot when a woman walking her dog came out from behind my car and walked in front of me. She gave me a long, mean look as she walked in front of my car, like, You almost ran me over.
Emotions As Doorways Into Your Story Part 2
On Instagram, I asked adopted people what emotions they did not like to feel.
Emotions As Doorways Into Your Story Part 1
So many people want to write some version of their life story and, even though it's something they lived, something they know, they can't do it.
What We're Up Against In The Adoptee Subconscious Mind And A Meditation To Make You Feel Loved And Seen
I created six groups of three adopted people and gave them ten minutes to act like one brain and come up with a list of what they believed were the negative messages …
Three Words That Can Change A Life
I was trying to figure out how to turn the air conditioner on with my key fob so I could leave Bird in the car while I ran in to grab some things
Why I Hate My Riding Lessons
My helmet cost over $400. I thought the price was a code. Remember when candy bars were a quarter?
2. The love I had for horses as a kid has been replaced by fear.
How Friday Ate My Book And Made My Day
When my daughter Keats was a little girl, she and I went to 4th Street in Berkeley one day to get away from the Los Gatos heat and to do a little don't-really-have-money-but-we-can-look shopping.
God Is In The Details Or Brad Loves Bugs Or Flower Porn
Someone got a macro lens and is seeing the world--bugs and flying creatures you might tend to swat–like a person deeply in love. Maybe not like a person.